Choosing bridesmaids may seem like one of the easiest decisions you will make while planning your wedding, but there are some issues that need to be addressed. While you may assume that you can just pick your favorite people to serve as bridesmaids, it does not always work out quite that simply.
You will need to make sure that the people you choose as bridesmaids are available and willing to stand up in your wedding. Sometimes things like logistics, previous obligations, or expenses play a role and keep people who would otherwise love to accommodate you from doing so. If you are able to help with expenses or sort through other issues, you might be able to come to a mutually satisfactory conclusion. If not, you may need to ask someone else.
There are also personality issues to consider. If your sister and a friend that you would like to serve as one of your bridesmaids do not exactly get along, asking both to be bridesmaids may prove awkward. While most people assume that loved ones will be able to manage such conflicts for the duration of one special day, you need to determine whether or not this is true of the people you have in mind. You don't want to risk spoiling one of the most important days of your life due to unresolved differences between your bridesmaids.
In addition, consider your own comfort level and that of your groom. It is best to avoid asking anyone that makes your beloved uncomfortable, since it is his day too. As far as your own comfort is concerned, don't let anyone manipulate you into asking her or someone else to be a bridesmaid if you'd rather not. For example, if your mother-in-law-to-be insists that you ask her daughter, find a way to politely decline if the idea makes you uncomfortable. If you and your sister-in-law are not particularly close, inform her mother that you have already asked long time friends and your own family members to be bridesmaids.
Choose bridesmaids that will able to help you with last minute details and those that will make you feel most at ease. Surrounding yourself with those closest to you is the surest way to make sure your wedding is the magical day you want it to be.